Appointment Formats

San Francisco Bay Area and Online

There are a few different ways we can work together, depending on your location, schedule, pacing, and the kind of support you’re looking for.

Regular practice tends to support steadier progress. The options below are common starting points. There’s flexibility here, and we can shape the structure together based on what’s realistic and supportive for you.

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Ways to Work Together

These are the most common structures for in-person appointments, virtual sessions, and hybrid work.

01 In-Person Appointments For clients local to the San Francisco Bay Area. +
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In-Person Appointments

If you’re local to the SF Bay Area, we can meet in person at my San Francisco office near 18th and Folsom. There’s gated paid parking onsite.

Common options include:

  • Weekly: 75 minutes for individuals; 90 minutes for couples
  • Every other week: 90 minutes for individuals; 105–120 minutes for couples
  • Once a month or every few weeks: 3–4 hours

In general, meeting more regularly tends to help people stay connected to the work and build momentum more steadily. That said, weekly sessions aren’t realistic for everyone logistically. Longer sessions less often can still create meaningful movement and depth.

02 Virtual Appointments For clients outside the Bay Area or anyone who prefers to meet online. +
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Virtual Appointments

If you live outside the SF Bay Area or simply don’t want to commute, we can work together virtually through HIPAA-compliant video sessions.

Even online, the work is experiential and relational. We’re not just talking about intimacy intellectually. We’re working with what’s happening in real time between us.

A lot of people are surprised by how much can actually shift over video. There’s still real interaction, nervous system responses, emotional presence, communication practice, embodiment work, and honest relational feedback happening live.

Common options include:

  • Weekly: 75 minutes for individuals; 90 minutes for couples
  • Every other week: 90 minutes for individuals; 105–120 minutes for couples
  • Once a month or every few weeks: 3–4 hours

As with in-person work, consistency usually helps the process build over time, but we can adjust based on what’s realistic for your life.

03 Hybrid Model Online work with periodic in-person intensives in San Francisco. +
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Hybrid Model

If you live outside the SF Bay Area but still want some in-person experiential work, a hybrid model can work well. Usually this means we meet virtually on a regular basis, then you travel to San Francisco periodically for in-person intensives.

The online sessions help build familiarity, trust, communication, embodiment, and relational skills over time. The intensives allow us to go deeper once there’s already a foundation in place.

A few examples that have worked well:

  • If you live within a few hours’ flight: Visiting for one weekend every 4–6 weeks, meeting for 3–4 hours per day
  • If you live farther away: Visiting for 4–5 consecutive days, meeting for 3 hours per day

Intensives can bring up a lot in a relatively short period of time, so pacing matters. In my experience, around five consecutive days is the upper limit before the work starts becoming harder to integrate well.

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Choosing a Format


If you’re unsure which structure fits you best, or if you have something different in mind, we can talk it through during a free consultation.


I keep my practice intentionally small, so the consultation is also a chance for both of us to get a sense of whether the fit feels right and what kind of structure would best support the work.


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Common Questions

Where are you located, and do you see clients outside of San Francisco?

My office is in San Francisco, in the Mission District. I see clients in person throughout the Bay Area — including the East Bay (Orinda, Lafayette, Berkeley, and Oakland), Marin County, and the Peninsula (Palo Alto, Menlo Park, Burlingame, and surrounding cities). Meeting virtually, or a hybrid format works well, if you don’t wish to regularly commute to my office. These options are available for anyone, including out of state clients.

Do you work with people outside the San Francisco Bay Area?

Yes. Remote clients can work virtually, or through a hybrid model that combines regular online sessions with periodic in-person intensives in San Francisco.

Can virtual intimacy coaching or surrogate partner therapy actually work without touch or being in person?

Usually much more than people expect. Even over video, there’s still real relational interaction happening in real time. We can work with communication, attraction, nervous system responses, emotional presence, embodiment, boundaries, vulnerability, shutdown, overthinking, and relationship dynamics as they arise.

You’re still interacting with a real person who’s responding honestly to you in the moment. The absence of touch changes the texture of the work, but not necessarily the depth of it.

What is an intensive session?

An intensive is a longer in-person session, usually around 3–4 hours. Some people also choose to do intensives across multiple consecutive days when traveling to San Francisco.

Intensives are especially helpful for people doing ongoing virtual work who want periodic in-person experiences to deepen and consolidate the process.

How often do people usually meet with you?

Weekly sessions are the most common starting point, though there’s no one “correct” schedule. Regular practice tends to support steadier progress. The goal is maintaining enough continuity that the work builds on itself. Longer sessions less often can still be meaningful when weekly isn't realistic.

How long will I need to work with you?

There’s no fixed timeline.

Some people come in with one specific issue they want support around. Others stay longer because the work opens into broader shifts around intimacy, relationships, sexuality, embodiment, or emotional connection.

How long we work together depends on what you’re wanting support with, how often we meet, and what pace feels sustainable and integrating for you.

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