Couples Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Coaching
San Francisco Bay Area and Online
When Sex and Connection Feel Strained
As a sex and intimacy coach, I work with couples who have built successful lives together but feel stuck around sex. From the outside, things may look solid. But at home, sex and intimacy has become a source of disappointment, tension, avoidance, or disconnection.
Couples usually come to me when their sexual disconnection begins affecting the relationship as a whole. Together, we work to create an erotic connection that feels pleasurable and emotionally intimate.
When Distance Starts Affecting the Relationship
When sex becomes a source of friction for long enough, it rarely stays contained to the bedroom. The emotional connection can start to feel thinner too, leading to tension and resentment. Conversations around intimacy can become so loaded that they end up creating more distance.
Experiential Couples Sex and Intimacy Coaching
Together, we explore new ways around touch and relating to each other so intimacy can begin to feel natural and mutual. This makes space for desire to return.
This work can support:
Exploring your erotic desires, and finding ways to invite them into your sexual connection
Differences in desire and libido
Navigating the changes that can come with aging including hormonal shifts, changing preferences around touch and sexual connection, and shifts in your body or sense of self
Rebuilding sensual and erotic connection through guided touch and experiential exercises
To reconnect with your sexuality and pleasure after sexual trauma or unwanted sexual experiences, when one or both partners are carrying the impact into the relationship
Creating a more aligned, shame-free relationship with sexuality after purity culture conditioning or strict religious teaching when one or both partners are struggling with the effects in their relationship
Getting out of cycles of conflict and returning to connection
Navigating tender topics in ways where both feel heard and understood
Understanding the patterns that leave one or both of you feeling disconnected, anxious, or alone in the relationship, and building greater emotional security together
What Becomes Possible Over Time
Over time, intimacy can start to feel more natural. Sex becomes something you genuinely enjoy together rather than another source of stress. Emotional closeness begins to return too, making it easier to feel supported and on the same team.
If You’re Tired of Carrying This Alone
If you’ve both been trying and things aren’t shifting, you don’t have to wait until the relationship reaches a breaking point.
You’re welcome to schedule a free consultation. We’ll talk about what’s been difficult and what you want your relationship to feel like moving forward.
I keep my practice small and work with a limited number of couples at a time. The consultation is a chance for all of us to get a sense of whether this feels like the right fit.
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FAQ for Couples Intimacy Coaching
Why has intimacy disappeared in my relationship?
Intimacy usually fades gradually, not all at once. Stress, parenting, resentment, burnout, routine, conflict, or long periods of emotional disconnection can all affect desire and closeness over time.
Many couples still love each other deeply but no longer feel emotionally or physically connected. My approach to couples intimacy coaching helps you rebuild closeness through direct experiences of connection, communication, touch, and emotional safety, not just through talking about the problem.
We have a sexless relationship and feel more like roommates than romantic partners. Can couples intimacy coaching help?
Yes. Many couples I work with function well as a team but no longer feel emotionally connected, affectionate, playful, or sexually alive together. They stop talking honestly about their desires or no longer know what turns them on.
My approach to couples work helps you rebuild your erotic connection with each other. Together, we work on creating a sex life that feels connected and genuinely wanted by both partners.
Can couples intimacy coaching help with low desire or mismatched libido?
This is an important part of our work together. Differences in desire are extremely common in long-term relationships. We work together to understand what allows desire to emerge for each of you and what’s getting in the way. We explore different ways in engaging with each other through touch or presence, so both of you can get your needs met.
We've tried couples therapy before and it didn't help. How is couples intimacy coaching with you different?
My approach to couples intimacy coaching is more experiential and interactive than traditional talk therapy. We move beyond analyzing and work directly with what happens between you in real time so you get experiences in feeling more connected with each other.
This can include communication exercises, emotional repair work, rebuilding comfort with touch, exploring desire, and practicing new ways of relating together. The goal is not just insight, but creating new experiences of connection that begin to carry into everyday life.
Can we work on our sex life without it feeling clinical or mechanical?
Absolutely, our work together will not be scripted or performance-based. The goal is helping you create a sex life that feels emotionally connected, pleasurable, natural, and specific to your relationship, rather than following someone else’s idea of what intimacy should look like.
What if one of us is more reluctant than the other?
That’s very common. One partner is usually more motivated to seek support first.
The consultation is intentionally low-pressure and gives both of you a chance to get a feel for the work before making any decisions. Reluctance is not a problem, it’s often an important part of understanding the relationship dynamic itself.
Is surrogate partner therapy available to couples?
Not as a couple, but one partner can work with me individually.
When one partner doesn't have the capacity to do this work right now, this can support the relationship without adding pressure between partners. The consultation is a good place to explore this option.